Creating yourself is hours of work and a never ending process of self-improvement specially if you want a life of mastery.

The greatest and most important adventure of our lives is discovering who we really are.

Yet, so many of us walk around either not really knowing or listening to an awful inner critic that gives us all the wrong ideas about ourselves.

We mistakenly think of self-understanding as self-indulgence, and we carry on without asking the most important question we’ll ever ask: Who am I really?

As Mary Oliver put it:

“what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”

Finding yourself may sound like an inherently self-centered goal, but it is actually an unselfish process that is at the root of everything we do in life.

In order to be the most valuable person to the world around us, the best partner, parent etc, we have to first know who we are, what we value and, in effect, what we have to offer.

This personal journey is one every individual will benefit from taking. It is a process that involves breaking down shedding layers that do not serve us in our lives and don’t reflect who we really are.

Yet, it also involves a tremendous act of building up recognizing who we want to be and passionately going about fulfilling our unique destiny whatever that may be.

It’s a matter of recognizing our personal power, yet being open and vulnerable to our experiences.

It isn’t something to fear or avoid, berating ourselves along the way, but rather something to seek out with the curiosity and compassion we would have toward a fascinating new friend.